Thursday, October 01, 2009

dear friends,

Since I've kept you all in the dark for so long, let me answer some of your questions. To be honest, it has been easy to keep this pregnancy under wraps for so long because it hasn't seemed real. My husband frequently forgets I'm pregnant, and I kind of do, too. I have not been sick AT ALL. I kept waiting for that familiar nausea to start, kept bracing myself to wake up and feel miserable, but it hasn't happened this time around. People keep telling me that maybe that means it's a girl? (More on that in a minute.) But really, I have felt so, so great-- been able to keep working out daily, and most importantly, been able to chase after my two-year-old without any ickiness. One of my big fears about pregnancy number two was not being able to take proper care of Baby G because I was too sick and tired. I have felt incredibly blessed that that has not been the case at all. 

Secondly, it has been easy to hide (and forget) because I haven't really shown a whole lot. I noticed a thickening around my waist, but at my last doctor's appointment (16 weeks) I was measuring two centimeters small and had gained less than a pound. I didn't really show with Baby G until I was between 19-20 weeks, and I just chalk it up to being tall and having lots of room for the baby to hide. No worries though, in the last week I have popped out and here is the picture to prove it:
Pretty please try to ignore the smudgy finger prints ALL OVER the mirror from the shortest member of our family. I noticed them when I was taking the picture but was too lazy to go find the Windex. Sorry.
 
And then lastly, to ease your curiosity (though it won't, actually), we do not know if the baby is a boy or girl. And we won't. Not for another 5+ months. We have decided to wait and let this little babe come to us as a surprise and I am really excited about it. Before I got pregnant I just kept thinking about how thrilling it would be to wait and find out the gender at the moment of delivery, but I wasn't sure I could handle the suspense. Now that I am pregnant, it seems easy and natural to not know. I have had an ultrasound, have seen the baby and heard the heartbeat, but I feel content not knowing more. I don't feel the same rush and yearning to know it all with this one. It's hard to explain. With Baby G I literally had ultrasounds at least monthly (usually it was more like twice a month) at my dad's office, just to go take a peek. We'd get in the car on Sundays and go to the office to say hi to the baby. As excited as I am for this little one, I don't feel the same frenzied need to read everything and see everything and know everything. I just feel peaceful about letting it all happen as naturally as possible, with as little extra stuff as possible (including at delivery, but that's a story for another time). Anyway, I know most people think we are crazy (my husband is totally on board with this whole deal), but it feels right and good and we are super excited about it. I don't personally know anyone who is still in their childbearing years who has chosen not to find out the gender while pregnant, but my mom and other relatives who didn't have the option to know with some of their babies have expressed how completely thrilling it is to have the baby and then find out who he/she is. And it sounds too good to pass up, so we are going for it.

18 comments:

Lemme said...

nate and i have already talked about it and if i ever get pregnant...we're not finding out either.

what's the extra stuff @ delivery? are you going to try to do it naturally?

Katie said...

we are thinking of not finding out next time since we already have one of each and i have planned c-sections-so that is about the only surprise we could get! good luck!

Engrained Emotions said...

are you hinting about a natural child birth? This is something I did... twice. loved it. Tell you more if you are interested.

excited for this new chapter in your life.

You are beautiful!

Adam said...

guess what? i'm going to tell your baby that you were so disinterested in it that you barely looked at it, didn't care to investigate its gender and didn't even bother getting a little sick.

sorry kid. that's what coming in second will get you.

Teacher Mama said...

I love that your pregnant tummy looks much better, and flatter, than my non pregnant tummy.

Mama Janet said...

You always do things with such style. I'm excited and thrilled for you and john and feel so pleased to have a new grandbaby to look forward to.

jwt said...

I was wondering if you were ever going to tell me your were prego! Congrats.

Cam and Linds said...

Congrats, and what a tricky yet creative way to tell everyone with the picture of the shirt! I am glad to here you are feeling well. I can't imagine caring for a 2 year old and having morning sickness on top of that! I think on my second one I could wait and find out also. It would be pretty thrilling to find out the day of the birth!

Emily said...

So excited...Good for you for going for the big surprise! Sounds fun. And, if you want to talk more about natural birthing you can email me!

The Edwards Family said...

Good for you! I am so not that patient of a person, but we have talked about not finding out on our last baby or at least one of our babies after we have one of each gender (which could be the next baby since we're having a boy this time :)). I think it could be a good experience so I hope it works out just the way you want it to!

And I am so glad you have not been sick. It is so not easy to be on the couch majority of the day with a 2 year old who still needs you so every time you get up you have to bolt to the bathroom first. Luckily kids are pretty good about adapting to their "new" mommy and don't demand as much from you until you start feeling better. Then it comes back with full force :) Hopefully you are out of the woods for the morning sickness and you stay feeling good!

wessara said...

Congratulations!! So when r U due?! Thats so exciting and if I could do it would too on my next!! Cant wait! Oh... and U r lucky to not show yet... seriously aren't u supposed to show faster on the second?! I know I did!! Ur amazing!!

wessara said...

P.S. does "extra stuff" mean natural? If so... I can do it!... its painful... but the second the baby comes out ur done with any pain!!

Jessica said...

That is hardly a belly at all. I think I am only a a couple weeks ahead of you and I am huge! Seriously! I had to find out what I was having. Being my last, I had to know it was a boy so I could rest and it is a boy!

I was super sick with both my girls, but I have not really been sick this time. I am about 10 times more tired though. Glad to hear all is well. Good Luck!

the mama monster said...

liz here is my theory as to why you aren't as sick this time around. i think that if you are still breastfeeding or just barely done when you get pregnant again you still have some sort of wacky hormone thing going on that makes you less sick. i was less sick with eli and abe and i was nursing both times when i got pregnant again.
you are definatly more patient than i am. i have to know what i'm having! good for you though. so how far apart will the kids be?
and no fair that you are such a pretty little pregnant lady...

Mandy and Roger Woodhouse said...

you look great Liz... so skinny! Is that from all the running you've done? I feel like it's been ages since I've seen you... which really is quite pathetic.
Have fun not finding out!

Jess and Derek said...

Wow where the heck have I been? Congrats! That is so exciting to wait! I love the idea! Keep us updated on how it goes!

Brant & Lindsay said...

Congrats Liz!! I am so excited for you! I have been out of the blogging loop for a while and just saw your post! That is so fun! Yay! I predict it's a boy!

Suzanna said...

LIZ!!!!!!!! I am soooooo excited for you!!! I can't believe you're pregnant - well, I can, but I am thrilled!!! You waited sooo long to tell everyone; I feel awful that I didn't find out until now - I've been busy with school and haven't had a chance to keep up with your blog.
I am so happy for you - and George is sooo adorable :)
All of my love and best wishes - I'll be home December 20th, so I'd love to see you :)
xoxoxo
Suzanna